Sample Letter of Sympathy for a College Student

This Sample Letter of Sympathy for a College Student offers understanding and condolence to the student’s roommate.  Although all of the student’s friends would certainly grieve her loss, the friend writing the letter acknowledges the special bond shared by the roommates.  Because the writer, herself, has experienced similar grief, she uses that familiarity to console her friend.  Even if you’ve never lost someone close to you, however, you can still comfort your friend.  Simply express yourself in sincere words, without assuming that you know exactly how she feels.  You might help your friend remember the good times by recalling a brief story, or offer particular support that fits the situation.  For example, the writer recognizes that the roommate might feel lonely, so she offers to spend extra time with her.  Feel free to use this Sample Letter of Sympathy for a College Student to inspire your own condolence message.

Sample Letter of Sympathy for a College Student

Dear Jill,

I know it might seem a little formal to write you a letter. But I wanted to make sure you understood how much I’m hurting for you.

We are all saddened and shocked over Sarah’s death. Everyone on campus who knew her is grieving. But you knew her better than anyone. She was more than a roommate to you; she was your best friend. You two were practically inseparable—like sisters, everyone said. You must miss her so badly.

I just can’t believe she’s gone. It won’t be the same in our little group without her. She was always such a good sport. Remember last year during finals week when we all crammed into Kevin’s car and drove to the doughnut shop at two a.m.? Sarah kept saying we shouldn’t go, but she ended up having a better time than anyone.

For the next few days, a lot of people on campus probably won’t know what to say to you. Some may feel awkward around you and therefore avoid you for a little while. (I experienced that sort of thing when my sister died back in high school.) If that happens to you, don’t take it personally. It just means that they don’t understand—how could they, really? But I do. And I won’t avoid you. I’m here for you. You can come up to my room anytime. If you need to talk, I’ll listen. If you just want to sit and study together, that’s fine, too. (As you know, my roommate is hardly ever around anyway.)

Maybe we can all drive down to the funeral together on Tuesday. I know you’ll want to attend the services, and I don’t think you should have to go by yourself.

Call me after you read this letter.

Love,

Alice