Sample Letter of Sympathy for a Grandmother

This Sample Letter of Sympathy for a Grandmother acknowledges the grief of a teen or young adult granddaughter who is experiencing the loss of a close relative for the first time.   Condolences offered by an older, more mature friend may comfort the grandchild by helping her cope with one of the most disturbing realities of life.   Although this sample is written to a young woman, you could easily adapt the details for a grandson or for a child.  If you have no personal memories of the grandmother, you might instead offer to spend some time with the grandchild, allowing her to share memories with you.   You might assure the young person of her grandmother’s love for her and of the pride her grandmother felt for specific accomplishments or qualities in the young person’s life.  Adapt this Sample Letter of Sympathy for a Grandmother to encourage and comfort an important young person in your life.

Sample Letter of Sympathy for a Grandmother

Dear Hannah,

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother. As her only granddaughter, you two must have had a special bond. I know you must miss her already!

I’ve known your grandmother since I was a child. She was my social studies teacher in the sixth grade. What a sweet lady she was—always full of vim and vigor and caring for other people. And we have enjoyed so much having her and your grandfather here in our church the past few years. Everyone here will certainly miss her, as well.

She used to talk about you all the time. I remember when she brought photos of you to church, right after you were born. And she always kept us up to date on your accomplishments as you’ve grown up. She was so proud of you.

I know how hard it is to let go of someone you love. You are never ready—regardless of that person’s age. But, in a way, you don’t have to let go, because you can always remember her. You must have some wonderful memories of your visits with her throughout the years. Don’t let these memories fade away. Talk about them with your family. Write about them. Tell your own children about them someday.

Remember that these next few weeks and months will be especially difficult for your mom, since she has lost such a wonderful mother. You are such a loving young lady, and I know you will be a great help to her. I’ve sent her a letter, too, but I wanted you to know that I am thinking about you, as well, as you grieve in your own way.

Your friend,

Marsha Watts