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You can read the sampler letter below of a condolence letter for a friend who has just lost a brother. The sibling bond is a unique relationship, and will mean something different for every individual. Writing a condolence letter is an important way for you to show your support to the family of the deceased. Once you have read the sample letter, you can review the following section-by-section guide.
Barb,
I hope this letter finds you well and and that you are holding up after your recent loss. I didn't know your brother as well as I would have liked to, but from everything you've told me about him, he was a wonderful brother. It was obvious to all of us that he loved you and your family very much.
I remember that time at the 4th of July picnic at your house when you asked him to take a look at my car which had been giving me a variety of problems. I'm sure it's not how he wanted to spend a beautiful holiday afternoon, but he did it, and soon had the problem fixed. I will always be grateful to him for that act of kindness to someone he hardly knew.
I know that he helped you many times as well and how comforting it was to you to know that he was always ready and willing to come to your aid. You always told me how much that meant to you and how proud you were to have such a caring and loving brother. Of course, anyone could see that he felt the same about you.
I know that it is going to be hard to imagine life without him, but I pray that your faith and inner strength will help you through this difficult time. Hopefully his many acts of kindness will help you as well. Your brother lived a good life, although it was far too short, and he will be long remembered by everyone who knew him.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. If there is anything that I can do to help, please do not hesitate to ask.
In Friendship,
Louise
Letters of sympathy and condolences are personal, and as such, the language of your greeting should reflect that. When addressing your intended recipient, your greeting should always include the name of the person you are writing your letter to. The specific nature of your relationship with the bereaved will help you to determine the exact phrasing that should be used. Here are some sample suggestions for your greeting:
Dear ________,
My Dear Friend _________,
Dearest __________,
Dear Mrs. __________,
Dear Ms. __________,
Dear Mr. __________,
Dear __________ Family,
It can be difficult to decide how to start your condolence letter for a brother. Remember that the most challenging part is choosing the first words of your condolence letter. Once you get started, it will only get easier to express your condolences. Your letter will genuinely reflect both your feelings of sympathy and the nature of your relationship with the bereaved, but only if you write from your heart.
In our letter we began with:
I hope this letter finds you well and and that you are holding up after your recent loss.
Other appropriate opening sentiments include:
We were very surprised to hear the sad news of your loss. Know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
I can never express with words how sorry I am to hear about the passing of (brother’s name). I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time.
We just heard about your loss. You have our deepest condolences.
I am sorry for your loss. May your beautiful memories sustain and bring comfort to you during this difficult season.
My heart is filled with sadness for your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences and know that my thoughts are with you during this time.
May your memories of your brother sustain and strengthen you as you navigate the difficult days ahead.
I want to extend to you my deepest condolences. My prayers and thoughts are with you during this time.
Finding the right words to express your sorrow when writing words of condolence letters for a brother is a challenging task. Mentioning a fond memory of the deceased and calling them by name can provide a measure of comfort to the bereaved. As our sample letter demonstrates for you, a personal touch is of the utmost importance when crafting your letter. Here are some samples to give you ideas for your own letter:
Some appropriate ways to offer help include:
We closed our sample letter with:
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. If there is anything that I can do to help, please do not hesitate to ask.
The closing statement is perhaps one of the most important parts of any condolence letter. It is your last opportunity within the letter to offer your sympathies. Some other appropriate phrases to use in a words of condolence letter for a brother include the following:
You will want to avoid these common spelling mistakes when substituting any of your own words for those in our sample words of condolence letters for a brother. For your convenience, here are some of the most common spelling errors:
You can send a text, email, or social media condolence message instead of the more traditional letter. A digital message can still include all of the same kinds of sentiments as what would be found in a traditional letter. Of course, the format of a text or social media message will often limit you to a certain length of message. Fortunately, it is proper etiquette to make your message shorter when sending a condolence message for a brother via text or social media. Here are some sample ideas that you can use for your message:
I just heard about your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers.
We just heard the sad news about ______. Please accept our warmest sympathies; you are in our prayers.
Words can’t express how sorry I am for your loss. You are in my prayers.
I’m sorry for your loss. May memories of your brother’s life comfort you and bring your peace in this difficult time.
We are so sorry to hear of the passing of dear ______. You have our condolences.
You can choose to send one of these short messages immediately to provide comfort and sympathy. Later, as you feel it is appropriate, you can then send a more traditional words of condolence letter for a brother.
Sending flowers or another type of condolence gift to the family of the deceased is a good way to show them that you care. You will want to include a condolence card for a brother along with your flowers or gift. If you find yourself at a loss for what to write in the card, remember that a simple phrase offering condolences is often best. You can use any of the following words of sympathy:
“A brother is a friend given by Nature.” Jean Baptiste Legouve
“They say love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies.” William Penn
“I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother and I found all three.” Unknown