Sympathy words expressed to the family and friend of someone who died unexpectedly are very much appreciated. Unexpected deaths including, accidents, suicide and murder can be especially hard for the bereaved to cope with. A few kind sympathy words can help ease the grief and help the survivors move on with life. Find inspiration for your own words of sympathy in the examples below.
Words of sympathy in a card to someone grieving is a heartfelt gesture that is sure to be appreciated. Here are some words of sympathy on an unexpected death ...
"My deepest sympathy on your unexpected loss. You have my sincere regrets."
"So sorry to hear about your unexpected loss. You have my deepest sympathy."
"I know how hard an unexpected loss is. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy at this tragic time."
"I was deeply saddened to hear about your loss. I know it was so unexpected. You have my deepest sympathy." top
A letter of sympathy is a great way to let the grieving know how much you care. What follows are some sample letters of sympathy on an unexpected death ...
I was so sorry to hear about your unexpected loss. I am still in shock myself. You have my very deepest sympathy.
Your wife was such a lovely person and so active and vibrant, which makes it even harder to comprehend her death. She and I spent a wonderful afternoon together just a week or so ago. I'm so glad now that I had that time with her.
I have so many fond memories of her that will help me in my grief. We enjoyed each other's company so much and I will miss her dearly. I don't think I have ever had so close a friend that always knew exactly was on my mind, and vice versa.
I want you to know that I share in your grief.
In Deep Sorrow,
Please accept my sincere sympathy on the untimely passing of your husband. His death was a total shock to all of us. It was so unexpected.
Your husband was a valued member of our parish and I had the pleasure of working with him on many church projects. He was a tireless worker and a great asset to our work.
I know that death is never easy to accept, but I know that when it is so unexpected it adds to the grief. I know for sure that I would have liked the opportunity to let him know how highly regarded he was. I will always be sorry that I didn't do that as much as I should have.
I plan to dedicate the project he was working on in his memory. I hope that small gesture will be a fitting tribute to a good and decent man.
Please extend my sympathy to your wonderful family.
Dear Mr. & Mrs. Reynolds,
We are both very sorry about the unexpected loss of your daughter. I know what a terrible shock it must be. We still can't believe it ourselves.
Your daughter was such a great girl and like a daughter to us. She was one of the sweetest and kindest girls and we thought the world of her.
As you know, we lost our son unexpectedly several years ago, so we know full-well the heartbreak that you are feeling. The pain does ease with time but the memory of him is still so very much alive and I think that is what has helped us the most.
If you feel like you need someone to talk to, please know that we are both here for you. We would be very happy to help in whatever little way we can.
Our thoughts and prayers will be with you and your lovely family.
In Friendship & Sorrow,
Gretchen Spring top
Emails are a quick and efficient way to send a message of sympathy. Here are some examples of emails to send on an unexpected death ...
Subject: In Sympathy
I was so shocked to hear of your unexpected loss. I am so very sorry. I am still trying to accept it. He/She will be missed greatly by all of us who knew him/her. You have my sincere sympathy. -Ron
Subject: With Deep Sympathy
I just heard the tragic news and want to say how deeply sorry I am. It was so unexpected, which makes it even harder on those of us who share your grief. I hope that the outpouring of sympathy you are receiving is some consolation at this very sad time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. -Betty
Subject: Your Tragic Loss
What a tragic and unexpected loss. I am still in disbelief. I don't think the reality has hit me just yet. I lost my brother the same way and I know how difficult that was for our family. I know that you have your wonderful family to help you get through this. I will be in touch to see if there is anything I can do. top
Text messages are a fast and easy way to deliver your message of sympathy on an unexpected death. Here are some sample texts that could be used at this sad time ...
Very sorry for your tragic loss. I am still in shock. Stay strong. I will stop by later.
I am saddened by your unexpected loss. It is so tragic. You have my deepest sympathy.
I just heard the sad news of your unexpected loss. What a terrible tragedy. My deepest sympathy. top
Words of faith are very comforting at a time of loss. These words of faith can be incorporated into your message of sympathy on an unexpected death ...
I was shocked and saddened by your unexpected loss. You have my deepest sympathy at this very sad time.
It is times like this that put our faith to the test. I feel that is why we have to use our faith to see us through the grief and despair that comes with tragedy.
I think your wife would want us to keep her memory alive in expressing our faith. All our prayers should remind us of the loving and compassionate person that she was.
The Bible says "Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted." I pray that God will bless you and give you the strength to get through this very difficult time.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you.
In Faith & Sympathy,
I am so very sorry for the unexpected loss of your brother. What a terrible shock.
I know that your deep faith will help you cope at this very sad and difficult time. I know that my faith will help me cope with the loss as well.
Your brother was a wonderful man. I feel so privileged to have known him.
I will be praying for you and your family.
God Bless You,
Mr. & Mrs. Kane
Please accept our deepest sympathy on the unexpected loss of your son. It is a very tragic event and I want you to know that I share your grief.
Your son was a fine young man and I was always very happy for the positive influence he had on my boy. I always held your son up as an example to my son as to the character and attitude he should emulate.
I know that it is difficult to understand tragedies like this, but we can call on our faith to help us deal with them. I take solace in the words of the Bible that tell us that those who mourn will be blessed.
My prayers will be for you and your family to see this through and keep strong. I know that God will shed his choicest blessings on you all.
God Bless You.
In Faith & Sympathy,
Bob Simms top
Sympathy verses are a great way to add a nice touch to a message of sympathy. These sample verses can be used in expressing your thoughts on an unexpected death ...
Death is a sad and tragic affair
Even when it is long anticipated
But no death is as hard on the living
As the unexpected death of a loved one
Death does not always come with warning
With time to say the sad farewells
Sometimes it comes, unannounced
With no time for even a brief goodbye
There are the saddest of times
When death takes one so dear to us
Without any warning, unexpected
And in our grief, we bid our sad farewell top
Here are some sayings that can be included in a message of sympathy to someone on unexpected death ...
"Death is sad enough when anticipated, but even worse when unexpected."
"The hardest part of an unexpected death is not having the opportunity to say goodbye."
"An unexpected death makes the passing of a loved one even more unbearable."
"All the planning in the world cannot prepare those left behind at an unexpected death." top
A poem can be included with your message of sympathy to enhance the delivery of your message. These poems may be useful when sending your sympathy to someone on an unexpected death ...
By Emily Bronte
Death! That struck when I was most confiding
On my certain faith of joy to be-
Strike again. Time's weathered branch diving
From the fresh root of Eternity!
Leaves, upon Time's branch, were growing brightly,
Full of sap and full of silver dew;
Birds beneath its shelter gathered nightly;
Daily round its flowers the wild bees flew.
Sorrow passed, and plucked the golden blossom;
Guilt stripped off the foliage in its pride;
But, within its parent's kindly bosom,
Flowed for ever Life's restoring-tide.
Little mourned I for the parted gladness,
For the vacant nest and silent song-
Hope was there and laughed me out of sadness;
Whispering, "Winter will not linger long!"
And behold! With tenfold increase blessing,
Sprang adorned the beauty-burdened spray;
Wind and rain and fervent heat, caressing,
Lavished glory on that second May!
High it rose- no winged grief could sweep it,
Sin was scared to distance with its shine;
Love, and its own life, had power to keep it
From all wrong- from every blight but thine!
Cruel Death! The young leaves drop and languish;
Evening's gentle air may still restore-
No! the morning sunshine mocks my anguish-
Time, for me, must never blossom more!
Strike it down, that other boughs may flourish
Where that perished sapling used to be;
Thus at least, its mouldering corpse will nourish
That from which it sprang- Eternity.
On Hearing of A Death
By Rainer Maria Rilke
We lack all knowledge of this parting. Death
does not deal with us. We have no reason
to show death admiration, love or hate;
his mask of feigned tragic lament gives us
a false impression. The world's stage is still
filled with roles which we play. While we worry
that our performances may not please,
death also performs, although to no applause
But as you left us, there broke upon this stage
a glimpse of reality, shown through the slight
opening through which you disappeared: green,
evergreen, bathed in sunlight, actual woods.
We keep on playing, still anxious, our difficult roles
declaiming, accompanied by matching gestures
as required. But your presence so suddenly
removed from our midst and from our play, at times
overcomes us like a sense of that other
reality; yours, that we are so overwhelmed
and play our actual lives instead of the performance,
forgetting altogether the applause. top
Quotations add an extra touch to your sincere message of sympathy. Here are some quotes that you might want to use in a sympathy message on an unexpected death ...
"Death is as casual- and often as unexpected- as birth. It is as difficult to define grief as joy. Each is finite. Each will fade." -Jim Bishop
"Which death is preferable to every other? The unexpected." -Julius Caesar top
Adding a few words to a wreath to mark unexpected death is a nice way to express your heartfelt sympathy ...
"We Mourn Our Loss"
"Gone Too Soon"
"Gone But Not Forgotten"
"Farewell, Rest In Peace"top
Adding a few words to a flower delivery card adds a personal touch to your gesture of sympathy. Here are some words that can be used for this purpose on an unexpected death ...
"With deepest sympathy on your unexpected loss."
"I share your grief on your unexpected loss."
"Deeply saddened by your unexpected loss."
"With heartfelt sympathy on your unexpected loss."top
Knowing the right thing to say at the time of passing of a friend is important, and so is knowing what not to say at this sorrowful time. Here are some phrases to avoid ...
"It was God's will."
"I wonder how long he/she would have lived if he/she took better care of themselves."
"I think he/she was on borrowed time."
"I didn't think he/she was long for this world." top