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Words of Condolence to Write in a Letter for a Wife

Included below is a sample letter of a condolence letter for a wife. After the example, we have provided a breakdown of each section on how to compose words of condolence letters for a wife so you can craft your own message.

Dear Frank,

I want to offer my sincere condolences on your recent loss. I was shocked to hear the news of Cindy's passing and I can only imagine how difficult it has been for you and your family.

Cindy was a special person who could light up a room with her smile. Though she was quiet and never sought to bring attention to herself, everyone loved her. I always looked forward to spending time with her and getting caught up in her positive outlook.

Though we haven't gotten to spend as much time together in recent years as I would have liked, I considered her among my dearest and most treasured friends. I could confide in her whenever I needed advice and know that she would give me her opinion. She was a wise, kind woman that will be greatly missed by all who knew her.

I hope that in some small way these words will bring comfort to you and your family at this sade time.

May God's blessings and peace be with you,


Before You Begin - Rules of Etiquette to Consider

  1. Keep your letter short but thoughtful
  2. Try to mention a fond or funny memory of the deceased if you have one
  3. Respect religious beliefs. Some people may believe in reincarnation rather than heaven, or could be atheists. Whatever their belief, they still deserve sympathy.
  4. Sign with a full name (first and surname). This is good etiquette as there may be other relatives or friends with the same first name as you.
  5. Do not offer financial help
  6. Don’t mention money the deceased may have owed you. This can be dealt with after the grieving period has passed.
  7. Do offer to help in other ways such as offering to cook a nice meal for the surviving family members, or helping with chores.

Begin With an Appropriate Greeting

Letters of sympathy and condolences are personal, and so you should first mention the name of the person you are addressing. Depending on how close you were with the deceased some of the ways you can do that are:

Dear _______,
My Dear Friend _______,
Dearest _______,
Dear Mr. _______,
Dear _______ Family,
Dear Family _______,

* Condolence Letter Writing Tip: If you knew the deceased, but not the family, address the letter to the spouse or to the family. Also, if you did not know the deceased, address the card or letter directly to your friend, co-worker, or acquaintance.

What to Say First in Words of Condolence Letters for a Neighbor

Choosing the right words to include in your own letter can be a daunting task. Just write from the heart so that your letter demonstrates your true relationship with the bereaved.

In our letter we began with:

I want to offer my sincere condolences on your recent loss. I was shocked to hear the news of Cindy's passing and I can only imagine how difficult it has been for you and your family.

My most sincere sympathies to you in your loss. So sorry to hear of the passing of dear _______. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

We are so sorry for your loss. You have our deepest condolences. Know that you are in our prayers during this difficult time.

My deepest condolences on the loss of your wife. I only hope that your beautiful memories can bring comfort during this unhappy time.

Please accept our deepest sympathies. Our prayers are with you during this time.

Mention a Wonderful Memory of the Deceased

When writing words of condolence letters for a wife, it is appropriate to mention a fond memory of the deceased. Including these memories in a letter can often provide comfort for those that are grieving and show your sympathy. Here are some ways you can do this:

  • Your wife was such a special person. I looked forward to our Friday girls' luncheons and she was the most fun of the group. She always had a funny story to tell about you and the girls. It was obvious how much her family meant to her.
  • I was saddened to learn of _______'s passing. Some of my fondest memories were of when were two little girls trying to sell lemonade to make some spending money. Such sweet, simple times. And yet, I knew she would become a great manager some day and that extended to how well she managed her kids' activities. I know she was a wonderful wife and mother and you will miss her.
  • I never knew your wife, but I was sorry to hear of her passing. I know how close the two of you were, and you spoke of her so often it felt like I knew her. You and your family are in my prayers.
  • Your wife was such a great co-worker and friend to me. She made coming into work every day something to look forward to. I always admired her happy attitude even on hectic days. Everyone here at work will miss her.
  • I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. I know we haven't been in touch in several years, but I had to reach out in this difficult time. I remember when the two of you got married, two young, crazy people in love. I knew then that it was a relationship that would last a lifetime. I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling, but know that you are not alone.

If You Like You Can Offer Help in a Words of Condolences Letter for a Wife

Some ways that you can offer your assistance include:

  • I'll cook up some meals that you can put in the freezer. Just take them out when you need to feed the kids a meal.
  • I'll stop by in the next couple of days to see if you need anything from the sore on my way shopping.
  • Since I lost my spouse, I attend regular support meetings. There is one scheduled for the ______. I'd like it if you would come with me.
  • I'll call you to set up a time that I can take the kids out to a movie or for ice cream to give you a break.
  • I have next ________ off from work, so I'll come by and we can go for a walk.

Close with an Appropriate Sentiment

We closed our letter with:

May God's blessings and peace be with you,

These final words of sympathy end the letter and are intended as a final way to provide comfort to the bereaved. Other phrases you can use to end words of condolence letters for a wife are:

  • With hope that it helps you to know how much we care.
  • With warm and heartfelt sympathy.
  • With blessings, love and prayers.
  • May these flowers express what our words never will.
  • Know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers.
  • With our deepest and heartfelt condolences.

Don’t Make These Common Spelling Mistakes

Makes sure you avoid these common spelling mistakes if adding your own words for any in our sample words of condolence letters for a wife.

  • Condolense
  • Condolesens
  • Simpathy
  • Simpathie
  • Preyers
  • Blesings
  • Simpothy
  • Simpothie

Condolence Messages for a Wife

If you choose to send a text or email message instead of a letter of condolence for a wife, you can create a message similar to what would be included in a letter. It is appropriate to shorten it to just a couple of sentences, especially for a text or social media message. Here are some examples that you can use.

I just heard about ______'s death. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts.

I heard from ______ that you lost your wife. I want to extend my sympathies to you and your family in this difficult time.

I just heard about the death of your wife and I want to offer my sincere condolences in a quick message. Please let me know if you need anything.

You can send one of these messages to provide immediate comfort and then send a traditional letter at a later time if you feel it is appropriate.

Condolence Cards for a Wife

If you are sending flowers or another gift to the spouse, you may wonder what to put on a card to offer sympathy. Here are a few ideas that you can use for your own condolence cards for someone's wife:

  • May these flowers serve as an expression of my sympathy for you and your family.
  • I want you to know that you are in our thoughts and prayers during this time.
  • May these flowers provide some measure of comfort during this time.
  • Know that we are thinking of you during this time.
  • May God be with you and provide comfort and peace.

Words of Condolence Quotes

"The song is ended, but the melody lingers on…" Irving Berlin

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." Albert Einstein

"Death is not the end. Death can never be the end. Death is the road. Life is the traveler. The Soul is the Guide. Our mind thinks of death. Our heart thinks of life. Our soul thinks of immortality." Sri Chinmoy

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