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Words of Condolence Letter for a Boyfriend

You can read the sampler letter below of a condolence letter for a friend or family member who has just lost a boyfriend. Writing a condolence letter is an important way for you to show your support to the bereaved. Once you have read the sample letter, you can review the following section-by-section guide. It will walk you through how to make your own personalized condolence letter with specific details about the deceased.

Dear Sandra,

I was extremely sorry to hear of the death of your long-time boyfriend and loyal partner Bobby. Please accept my deepest sympathies and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I know that Bobby was a faithful companion to you, and I’m sure his passing has caused you great sorrow. I know that he was loved dearly by all who knew him and that he will be missed by the entire community. I know that he was a wonderful a partner and that he was always looking for ways to show just how much he cared for you. Remember that Halloween party when he dressed as a knight, and you were his princess? I actually have a picture of the two of you from that night. I’ll dig it out and send it to you. I’ll always remember Bobby as your knight in shining armour.

I know that I can’t possibly understand the terrible loss you have suffered. I can’t help thinking how sad you must be. You’ve always been a wonderful friend to me, and I wish I could say something to take the pain away, but I know I can’t. I feel so helpless being so far away, and I wish I could be there so much. Please know that I would be there now if I could. As soon as I’m able, I’ll make the arrangements to come and spend some time with you.

Feel free to call me anytime, if you need anything or if you just need someone to listen to you. Please know that the entire Walker family sends their condolences as well. Even though they were only able to meet Bobby at the last reunion, they all remember him fondly.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I plan to be in town next month, so let’s make arrangements to get together then.

With all my love and condolences,

Deirdre Walker

Before You Begin-Rules of Etiquette to Consider

  1. Keep your letter short but thoughtful.
  2. Mention a favorite memory of the deceased if you have one.
  3. Respect religious beliefs. Always remember that everyone deserves sympathy, regardless of what they may or may not believe.
  4. Sign with your full name (first and surname). This is proper etiquette and will prevent any confusion regarding relatives or friends with the same first name as you.
  5. Do not make any offers of financial help.
  6. Do feel free to make offers of practical help such as offering meals or lending a hand with household chores.

Begin With an Appropriate Greeting

The language of your greeting should reflect the extremely personal nature that is definitive of letters of sympathy and condolences. When addressing your intended recipient, your greeting should always include the name of the person you are writing your letter to. The specific nature of your relationship with the bereaved will help you to decide upon the exact phrasing that should be used. Here are a few sample suggestions for your greeting:

Dear ________,
My Dear Friend _________,
Dearest __________,
Dear Mrs. __________,
Dear Ms. __________,
Dear Mr. __________,

What to Say First in Words of Condolence Letters for a Boyfriend

It can be difficult to decide how to start your condolence letter for a boyfriend. Remember that the most challenging part is choosing the first words of your condolence letter. Once you get started, it will only get easier to express your condolences. Try to just write from your heart. That way your letter will genuinely reflect both your feelings of sympathy and the nature of your relationship with the bereaved.

In our letter we began with:

I was extremely sorry to hear of the death of your long-time boyfriend and loyal partner Bobby. Please accept my deepest sympathies and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Other appropriate opening sentiments include:

We were very surprised to hear the sad news of your loss. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Words just cannot express how sorry I am to hear about the passing of _______. I am praying for you and your family during this difficult time.

I just heard about your loss. You have my deepest condolences.

I am sorry for your loss. May your beautiful memories sustain and comfort you during this difficult season.

I just heard about your loss and I am completely heartbroken for you. Please accept my deepest condolences and know that my thoughts are with you.

May warm memories sustain and strengthen you as you navigate the difficult days ahead. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

I want to extend to you my deepest condolences. May the memories of a life well lived bring you some measure of comfort during this time.

Mention a Wonderful Memory of the Deceased

It is challenging to find just the right words to express your sorrow when writing words of condolence letters for a boyfriend. You may fear saying the wrong thing, or mentioning something insensitive that could bring more pain to the bereaved. However, your words of sympathy have the power to help bring comfort to your friend. As our sample letter demonstrates for you, a personal touch is truly of the utmost importance when crafting your letter of condolence for a boyfriend. In your letter, try to mention your favorite memory or story about the deceased. Here are some samples to give you ideas for your own letter:

  • Your boyfriend was an extraordinary person who would always do anything you asked of him, and always with a smile. I, along with the rest of the faculty, will miss seeing him around the department. We will never forget his intelligent humor and his bright smile.
  • I remember ______ very fondly as a man of great character. He was truly a blessing to everyone who was fortunate enough to know him.
  • Your boyfriend ______ was a beautiful person. I will always remember the night that the two of you met. He was so thrilled about meeting you and knew that you were his perfect match from the beginning. His loss is a shock and we will all miss him terribly.
  • I was saddened to hear of ______’s passing. He and I grew up together and always had our sights set on life in the city. I always knew that he would be a huge success. He was a great guy and even though I never had the chance to meet you, he spoke very highly of you in our correspondence.
  • I am shocked and saddened to learn of _______’s recent passing. I will remember him fondly has a hard worker and the best pitcher in our softball league. We will all miss him; our prayers are with you.

How To Offer Help in a Words of Condolences Letter for a Boyfriend

Some appropriate ways to offer help include:

  • We will drop off several meals that you can just keep in the freezer. That way you won’t need to worry about doing any cooking and can just thaw the meals as you need them.
  • Please don’t worry about meals. I can sign you up for our meal delivery team and they will take care of everything.
  • We will get together a team that can help you out with some of your household chores. I'll call you in a couple of days and we can plan a time for the team to come over.
  • When I lost ______ I started attending a weekly support meeting. I'll let you know the details of the group and if you are interested I can stop by and pick you up the next time I go.
  • I’m am planning to do some shopping in town on ______ . I would be happy to pick up whatever you need and drop it off on my way home.
  • Please don’t worry about your pets. We can come by before and after work to feed and walk them.

Close with an Appropriate Sentiment

We closed our sample letter with:

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I plan to be in town next month, so let’s make arrangements to get together then.

The closing statement is one of the most important parts of any condolence letter. It is your final opportunity within the condolence letter to offer an expression of your sympathies. Also, as the last statement, it can leave a long lasting impression. It is important to choose your closing statement with care. Some appropriate phrases to use in a words of condolence letter for a boyfriend include the following:

  • With prayers for the courage to face these challenging days.
  • With hope it that it may help you to know we are thinking of you.
  • With our warmest and most heartfelt sympathy.
  • With all of our blessings, love and prayers.
  • Please know you are not alone.
  • Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
  • With our deepest and heartfelt condolences.
  • Know that we will always be here for you if you us.

Don’t Make These Common Spelling Mistakes

Take care to common spelling mistakes when substituting any of your own words for those in our sample words of condolence letters for a boyfriend. It will help to read through your letter after you have written it, in order to check your letter for any possible errors. Taking the extra time to proofread your condolence letter will show your bereaved friend that you have made your best effort. For your convenience, here are some of the most common spelling errors:

  • Condolense
  • Condolesens
  • Simpathy
  • Simpothy
  • Simpothie
  • Preyers
  • Blesing

Condolence Messages for a Boyfriend

You can send a text, email, or social media condolence message instead of the more traditional letter. A digital message should include all of the same kinds of sentiments as what would be found in a traditional letter, thought the format of a text or social media message will often limit you to a certain length of message. Fortunately, it is proper etiquette to make your message shorter when sending a condolence message for a boyfriend via text or social media. Here are some sample ideas that you can use for your message:

I just heard about your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I just heard the sad news about ______. Please accept my sympathies; you are in my prayers.

Words can never express the sympathy I feel for your loss. You are in my prayers.

May memories of _____’s life comfort you and bring your peace in this difficult time.

I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of dear ______. You have my deepest condolences.

You can choose to send one of these short messages immediately to provide comfort and sympathy. Later you can then send a more traditional words of condolence letter for a boyfriend.

Condolence Cards for a Boyfriend

Sending flowers or another type of condolence gift to the partner of the deceased is a good way to show them that you care. You will want to include a condolence card for a boyfriend along with your flowers or gift. You may find yourself at a loss for what to write in the card; just remember that a simple phrase offering condolences is often best. The following are some sample words of sympathy that you can use in your card:

  • May these flowers serve as a token of my sympathy for you.
  • May these flowers express what words never will.
  • May this gift serve as a heartfelt expression of my thoughts and prayers for you.
  • May these flowers remind you just how much we care for you.
  • With the deepest condolences for your loss.
  • Please know that we are always here for you.
  • With our heartfelt condolences.
  • Please know I am praying for you.
  • From our family, with sympathy.

Words of Condolence Quotes

“Life is eternal, and love is immortal, and death is only a horizon, and horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.” Rossiter Worthington Raymond

“In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing.” Robert Ingersoll

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4

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